I suggest you leave before he/she does or start asking questions !

Many cant sense when there's an end near, some mistake it for a bump in the road ! lol
let me open your eyes, when there is trouble in paradise alot of things change and to avoid conflict many of us ignore it ... if you ignore it don't complain when your felt in the dark !

How do you know when they are opting to leave ? i'm gonna list a few hints

•  Everyday they start an arguement of some sort with out reason. Aim? to make you unhappy or displeased, which would result in you distancing yourself, giving them time to think about the next move!
• All of sudden suggesting that you change your ways.
• Constantly comparing you with other people ... alot of them laugh when they are doing it to hide truth, but really know they are just being honest.
• Avoids questions about your furture together, every attempt they get. Avoiding personally questions in general !
• They no longer have time for you ! you should know if someone wants to be with, they will do whatever to make it happen.
• They have a new set of friends to which they dont want to introduce you to or talk about ! they're simply creating a new life without you, exploring what it would feel like.
• Your no longer able to sit beside him/her when their using there phone. whether it be making calls or texting. 
• Has specific time of their day when they can't conversate with you.
• Stop answering your phone calls and texts with urge and are completely ok if you do the same.
• They act like your paranoid or over reacting when an argument surfaces. Ever so willing to take the blame ! reason ? loss of interest.
• Laugh at you most of the time rather than laugh with you.
• Doesn't have your back anymore. how ? well when in a public discussion normally when your wrong your significant other would avoid conversation or try to defend you, its rare they go against you ! This as something to do with protection and trust.

Thats that ! if you have any red flags please share and i hope you can relate !

 Ooo and i must tell you ask questions don't just up and leave and then blame me lol ask questions to get answers.

Am i ready for a "Committed Relationship"?

So my take on this topic, personally speaking i don't think i am. Why ? well i think i wonder too much about what it would be like if i were single and disengaged ! I think at this age i should be looking for someone to settle with, but when i do get close to someone capable of engaging in a committed relationship. I often find myself making excuses, or getting the feeling am being tied down. When this happens i run to the nearest "EXIT" ... whats the nearest exit for me, telling premeditated lies like " i'm still inlove with my ex" lol, i know its horrible but i swear its better than "i want to explore" or "relationships are claustrophobic" i think =/.

That's basically my point of view on that personally, anyways i have researched, so to speak and gathered a few other reasons that may help you come to the conclusion as to if you are or are not ready for a committed relationship.
Well i'm more familiar with persons not ready for a committed relationship,so below i have listed them, the opposite of this list is those persons who are fully ready for that of a committed relationship, i thought i was rather pointless to list both.

SO MY FELLOW READER you are not ready for a committed relationship if ....

1.  Your still trying to find yourself ! if its that you haven't figured out you, then how can you commit to getting to know someone else, when you haven't committed to getting to know yourself.
2. You have no plans or expectations for the growth of the relationship. In other words you haven't put much thought into it.
3. You find yourself lusting at other individuals, not being able to control your sexual drive
4. Just got out of a relationship whether it be a month or five years ! take a break
5. You feel as though you haven't explored enough ! want to rise you number (y)
6. Fear of commitment ... this is something you, yourself need to figure out before you go into a committed relationship to avoid flee and  breaking hearts.
7. Confused about what you want ! i struggle with this, even when i get what i thought i wanted. I still question if its really what i want lol. How i handle it ? i go with the flow and see what happens.
8. If your still in love with your ex, its obvious your not ready for a committed relationship.
9. If your idol at some point in life was George Clooney, your are most definitely not ready for a committed relationship and should stop fooling girls/boys that you are #notnice -_-.
10. You don't see the worth of being in one, when you can have all you want now and you can't see how a commitment can better that. I say you review yourself
11. If you avoid drama and conflicts ! ps in every relationship both those are evident, if not something is wrong, because no one smiles all day everyday ! 

i stopped liking u

So this topic is about identifying reasons why ? you stopped liking someone!

well let me jump right in a tell you ... i'm the kind of girl where today am over possessive and obsessed with you, then the other day i could not care less if you fell off the face of the earth. This is a bad and good thing because my behavior is innate, i honestly don't choose who i fall for or lose interest in. At the same time, there are some people i become obsessed with that don't deserve me AT ALL and its nice to innately let go. Knowing they were just a pawn in my game of chess =) ! 

so in other words am that on and off switch that needs to be fixed lol

Alot of people i hope can relate to my above response to the topic if not here are some more reasons i gathered:

• Found a better version of the person you use to like lol, an upgraded version.
• At a different phase in your life now, alot of changes took place and taste in attraction is one of them. 
• Finally came to realization that judgement was clouded and what you saw wasn't exactly what was there !
• Found a new hobby.
• Stopped because the individual changed.
• Realized you liked the person more than they did you.
• No longer felt that spark.
• Your a open book now, preferred when you kept me guessing. 
• I saw you with someone else, your reaction made me see that i could never mean as much to you, so i stopped liking you.
• You continue to say hurtful things, regardless of me telling you how much i dislike it.   
• Fear of falling inlove ... avoiding getting my feelings hurt again !
• i see no future with us ! Another fling and am way too old for that.

Going out with the girls "Fun needed tips"

So December i went out with a bunch of my friends, to a very fun party ! #quickreview: " Umm it was fun, ages 18 up were there. The place was very classy, but yes there were bitches. I had an encounter with one but i didn't let it spoil my night =), really hot guys were there too and the girls really went all out ... i must admit for the first in my life of going to parties, there were multiple guys there that i was attracted to *innocent face* and this normally never happens. So thumbs up for that party, they had great liquor and hype music i just couldnt resist dancing, i honestly had fun and so did my girls " with the help of these tips =D.


Ok ladies time for tips, no matter what time of the year it is as long as it is a GIRLS NIGHT OUT there are a few things you need to know !

• Take party girls =D make sure you don't take your boring friend out that night, because we both know girls night out is a get away free card from jail lol and you really don't need someone that wont help you forget all your troubles and just have fun. 
• Leave all attachments at home and yes am talking your boyfriend and your phone at least put it on silent ... this night is worth enjoying. Also alot more fun happens when your less consumed by him or your phone.
• Camera is needed to remember a night like this. Trust me there are memories you'll want to store with the help of pictures ! to laugh and reminisce years after.
• Do not expect to find Mr Forever i don't think hes there, but you can try your luck. I try to commit to this advice but i find myself  still searching for the nice guy at a party, usually after a break up, and truth be told this never works out O.o
• Take your lip gloss for touch ups of course, you know your purse with your make up kit because all that dancing and mingling can get you sweaty and looking not so cute in an hour or so ! #notattractive
• Tell no one, but who your going out with where your going  that night ! i mean you honestly, don't want that guy that you really like at a party your probably gonna behave badly at =/ lol. Girls night out can get a little wild.
• Try not to use this night as a way to reconnect friendships, because after a few drinks things are probably gonna blow up in your face and the next day you'll regret it. 
• Avoid arguments especially with drunk people, there are only 2 endings with that. One, get into a fight or two, try not to talk to or come in contact with that individual. Either which way it still limits your fun.
• Choose a place you know everyone is going to enjoy! A club always works, i dont suggest private parties because people normally want to leave unattached lol. And alot of hook ups normally take place at private parties, due to the fact that people there are normally friends of friends .

So yes, that's as far as my tips for a great girls night out goes ! try them or let me in on a few of your own or tell me about your girls night out,  i'd really love to know. Am all about avoiding drama and having fun on my girls night out.

i want to be single ... why ?

THERE ARE MANY REASONS WHY SOMEONE WANTS TO BE SINGLE ... MOST OF THEM ARE GENERAL AND OTHERS HAVE FAMILY TIES OR SOME OTHER PHYSIOLOGICAL REASONS. ANYWAYS, I AM SINGLE RIGHT NOW SO I CAN IN FACT LIST SOME OF THE REASONS WHY SOMEONE MAY WANT TO BE SINGLE.


Let first say these are strictly my opinions, if you wish to share yours or disagree with mine, i am completely ok with that. And also these are in no specific order and are based on relationships and situations of my close friends and myself.
  
REASONS:

1. He/she probably just got out of a relationship. They want a break to be wild and think. 
2. He/she is afraid of a commitment. Afraid of the unknown, they dont want to fall in love because they aren't sure what will happen after that.
3. He/she thinks everyone is below their standard and they prefer to wait for the right one to come around than lower there standards.
4. He/she  is in a long distance relationship and can't stand it. 
5. He/she feels the need to focus on them selves, because the last relationship was draining (sucked all the life and freedom out of them. They seem to feel like they lost themselves along that path).
6. He/she maybe be a player. (wants to experiment the world before choosing one O.o, never fall for that excuse because they'll never come around and if they do, it'll be far too late!)   
7. He/she maybe promisous and relationship with one person doesn't satisfy them 
8. In college and the variety and mass of the sexes seem overwhelming and they can seem to choose. (this is the position i'm in ahah )
9. How could i forget, they are broken hearted and is already finding it hard to get over their last relationship.
10. Still in love with someone they know they cant have. Waiting patiently, hoping the one they are in love with will turn around and realize that they made a mistake, so they're preserving themselves until that moment. ( Umm my comment on this, life isn't a fairy-tale for all of us, this happens for 5 % out of the 100% of us. But as i said before my opinion, your decision).
11. Relationships never worked out for their friends, or family so why should they want to be anything but single. It seems to be working out fine so far. (i think everyone should test the waters, so to speak before making judgement. Not everything that works for Tom is gonna work of Jerry.) 

Technology makes studying hard !

Studying for me is the hardest thing ever, since technology became so dominant and everything in terms of my school study notes, assignments and homework is needed to be done online !
 This is a problem to me because i am a social network addict, there is no way that i am going to only study, knowing i have access to the internet. I cant seem to resist that one notification from Facebook, playing games on Yearbook, expressing my feeling on Tagged, Twitter and Blogger about how long and hard i have to study for a subject that's not even going to help in my career choice. Also to go on and on about how its all very too much for me, instead of actually studying ahahah.
 Forget having a boyfriend, this is the biggest distraction ever.
Now, don't get me wrong i blame no one but myself for my weakness to internet, but this doesn't change anything I've said, technology does make it hard for me to study. And i know for a fact that am not the only one facing this problem.
I'm surprised, not many websites have articles written on this issue, only a few, its mind bottling to me. Well not really but i do think its an important issue many of u ignore please bloggers, author and journalist please shine some light on this topic. when you do please give advice and ways to reduce my addiction or correct the incorrect way of which i weigh my opportunity cost of school and play.

Let me make one thing clear, I am not saying this is the only issue, I am just saying its one of the dominant ones that alot of us including myself get caught up in.

 Now tell me do u AGREE or DISAGREE ? please do express your views.

i am a Jamaican

Yes, i am a Jamaican. Born December 12 1991 in Jamaica and now attending the University of the West Indies located in Jamaica. I am happy to say i have a few accomplishments up my sleeves that i will share in my other blogs if needed. Anyways I've just realized that i have a thing for blogging. I've always been one, not afraid to express my views and  not afraid to talk pure non sense and smile at the end of every sentence, hoping to get a smile back lol.

Mhmm so what to expect? well as a Jamaican blogger only thing i can promise you is to give you a good update about the weather here =) ahahah, maybe also about the food, parties and the beautiful hotels i visit. Nothing about politics though =/. Everything else will be general and random. I think it would be wise to highlight that ill be 20 as of December 12 2011 so my blog my be amateur so to speak, but i can promise you will see growth.